My concerns with Dreamy being critical on a past date have, thankfully, been a non-issue since then. He also has fortunately been smelling nice and clean. Often when you have a couple of doubts about something, they snowball into progressively bigger doubts - but I'm relieved to say that my negative feelings were short-lived.
He brought me to a party recently, which was the first time I met his friends. I was wondering if anyone would ask how we met, but luckily they did not; he found me online, and we had never discussed the story we would tell people. I was also curious if our "label" would come up, but he simply introduced me as M.
He does love to playfully make fun of me, and last night, while he was imitating my Northern pronunciation of certain words, he let the words "my boyfriend" slip - in reference to himself. The non-confrontational person that I am, I didn't react to it, and he didn't bring it up formally either. I'm not in a hurry to define anything. While I've been guilty of viewing guys I dated as "perfect" in the past, I am beyond that feeling with Dreamy, and I'm fine with continuing to explore if we are a good fit long-term. He is also fretting because he hates when his [older] female co-workers probe into his personal life, but soon he has to tell them - for RSVP purposes - who he's bringing as his +1 to his company Christmas party. While he is very direct about most things, he is shy about these relationship-type moments - and so he indirectly told me that I will be his +1.
In other news, the awkwardness with DC has finally ended. We avoided looking at/talking to each other all this week, but on Thursday, as I was waiting for my lunch to finish in the microwave at school, he walked into the room. He started a conversation, and we were both able to interact normally. I'm glad things feel comfortable again - it is so weird to revert back to the middle-school-esque practice of ignoring a guy.
One other thing I'm worried about is that I've been doing a lot of recruiting-related travel lately, and I think it's very likely I could move to another city after I graduate. It wasn't my initial plan when I started school, and a few weeks ago I told Dreamy that despite these trips, I wasn't interested in moving. I've gone through a lot to find a good guy, but now I'm really considering job opportunities in two other cities. I guess this will be have to be one of those things where time will tell - there's no sense in making contingency plans now, because it will be at least nine more months until I would have to decide. Career is one of my top priorities in life, but love is the other - it's a shame they might have to be at odds.
I know the feeling (about the issue between career and love) - the first is a priority for me too, and likewise they may be at odds. So far, I've found that long-distance doesn't work (for me, at least), but then I have so many friends who do, and they are happily married after being away from each other for years at a time. I think, when it comes to the right person, then it'll work, regardless.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny that you haven't had the conversation about 'how' you met i.e. online. I'm quite reluctant to discuss it. So many people meet their partners online these days, so I would have thought there would be less of a stigma, but recently on meeting friends, I have found I still get the 'look' - that "Oh! Wow... That's... unusual..."-look when I've said "We met online!" But then, people can be judgemental and I should just care less, right? I'm sure it's not that big a deal anyway.
It's good that you're having these experiences with Dreamy and things are moving forward, especially since you were so worried in your last post. I can't wait to hear more!
Long distance isn't appealing to me at all, but he's racking up his airline miles due to work travel, so maybe it could be ok for a while. It's too far away for me to want to think about it, though! Hopefully career prospects and love with align for you as well!
DeleteAnd yes, so many people meet online these days - I wonder what percentage of those actually admit to it? My closest friends would know the real story. With guys, I think they are fine telling their buddies they hooked up with girls they met online, but for actual girlfriends, they wouldn't want to confess this.
I"m glad some of the issues with Dreamy have subsided! As for long distance, I know it's hard to find an awesome guy after so much bad luck with dating. But on the flip side, my rule is unless there's a ring on my finger, my decisions to move are based entirely on me :) (I say this is I have had recurring dreams of picking up and moving to London)
ReplyDeleteM, just wanted to say hi, I miss your blogging and hope we get an update soon!
ReplyDeleteSorry for disappearing on you! Thank you :)
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