Thursday, August 20, 2015

Gay bars, "locking it down," and recent compulsions/obsessions

I didn't text Ryan all week after I received his message that he would be "traveling" most of the week I was visiting. After our final day on the job, the other interns and I headed out to the gay bars, which were pretty entertaining. It was a night of celebration, so clearly there was drinking involved; the drinks got the best of me, and I gave in and quickly shot Ryan a message, asking if he'd been to the area before. I figured one of two things would happen:
1.) He could magically be "back in town" and come out to join the group, or
2.) He would interpret it as an innocent request for bar suggestions, at least keep some semblance of a rapport/prior friendship, and offer his input on which bar to hit up next.

Spoiler alert: I didn't see Ryan while I was in town. He at least decided to keep things friendly and respond that he thought the area was fun. I am glad that I didn't get completely iced out; if we end up living in the same city again, at least things won't be as awkward for me.

SF seemed a little less rosy without the possibility of having Ryan's company. I had a lot of fun with the other interns, including Romeo. I actually saw him on Tinder within minutes of opening it in my hotel room, but I freaked out and swiped left. We didn't bring up the fact that we saw each other on there, and we also weren't best buddies like we were in the first intern trip; maybe I will see him again next year if we both take the job full-time.

I haven't mentioned him before, but I've decided that one of the other interns is the most gorgeous man I have ever seen. He is incredibly smart and talks/expresses himself in this way that is both nerdy and adorable at the same time. He is Indian, so beautiful, tall with the perfect build, and such a perfect person; he also has a girlfriend. Boo. I couldn't get this thought out of my head: I had this compulsion to ask if he had any brothers or friends who look exactly like him, so that I could date that guy. I think he will come back to the company full-time, so maybe one day we will reunite and he will dump his girlfriend for me. Ha. (Asking him if he would dump his girlfriend for me was my other compulsive thought.)

In other news, this week, Guy from Hinge asked me if I wanted to see him exclusively. I like him, but I'm not obsessed with him. It is still very soon since the breakup with Formerly-Known-as-Dreamy, and I told Hinge Guy this, plus that I didn't want to make a hasty decision or rush into anything. Not counting the week I was out of town, we have been dating for two weeks. He's a nice guy, but I need to take my time to meet more guys and go on dates with other people. Plus, I am highly enjoying the single life! I'm not ready to do couple-y things again and have a dude hanging on my side at every party or friend outing I attend.

He may be better than other guys out there, but I don't know how long I can pull off keeping him "on hold." I honestly need more time to date around; without it, I would probably want to break up anyway to keep exploring. I think the guy was disappointed, but he understood and took it well. The kissing situation has thankfully gotten much better; he is very receptive to "training." ;)

There are two other guys from the dating apps that I'm pretty excited about. With one, I am obsessed with his pictures (because he looks EXACTLY like a blond, American version of the Hot Indian Intern), and with the other, I love our conversations. I haven't met either one yet, but I have a first date scheduled with the conversationalist for next week.

Poor Hinge Guy! He has no idea that I have turned into a dating app addict, in spite of contrary claims I made in a post a few short weeks ago.


  1. Asking for exclusivity after 2 weeks? That's quick! Have you gone out on a lot of dates in that time? It sounds like a wise decision not to agree to it. You just ended a relationship with a guy you weren't really all that into, and there's plenty of fish in the sea as you've found :)

    An Indian guy who is actually attractive, I thought they didn't exist! (I'm Indian so I guess I can say that, haha)

    1. It was seriously quick! It was flattering though. We had been on four dates in two weeks. There are too many fish in the sea to be so hasty!

      I so wish sometimes that I could post pictures of some of these guys. The Indian intern is absolutely gorgeous!