My first news is that I have gotten rid of Foodie, but not before I got a free showing of Wolf of Wall Street out of him. Anything for Leo, am I right?
I've been seeing a lot of Arms lately and haven't gone on dates with anyone else in weeks. He's going to be traveling for work for several weeks here soon. It just so happens that I'm going to a wedding in a city just a few hours from where he'll be working. He volunteered to drive to me that weekend, pick me up, and take off work for a couple days so we can have a little reunion and explore the two areas. He also asked me to be his date for a wedding that is still several months away. He treats me really well. I like being with him, but I also like this feeling with him like I'm in control of my emotions. I'm not obsessing and dwelling on the future.
As we're spending more time with each other, I feel guilty about the possibility of talking to other guys. I really know I should still be dating around, and I want to. But the guilt overwhelms me, so I don't stray! I see that Arms is active on Tinder every few days, so I make sure I am as well - even though I haven't actually been talking to anyone.
In other news, one of my girlfriends has really been bothering me lately. She's a couple years younger than I am, but the more time I spend with her the more immature she seems. She's in a circle with a couple of other girls I adore, so shutting her out is not an option - and there're moments I adore her as well. But she is literally guy-crazy. She's very beautiful but is so clingy that she scares her prospects off fast. I get worried texts from her almost every day that say "Guy X, Y, or Z hasn't texted me back yet today!" She responds to every text within seconds. I'm like, "Girl, you text more than anyone I know. You're dating guys that are older than you. You have to understand that they can't and don't want to text and communicate every moment of every day. Not texting back in two hours does not mean they don't like you!" But sadly, no matter what my friends and I tell her, she's un-teachable.
Lately every girls' night out with her is a drag. It becomes all about her and the guy-of-the-night that she wants to meet out. She'll whine that he bailed on her, or will whine if she doesn't like the bar we're at because there are no guys. It's like she can never enjoy her friends and she just complains the whole time! However, the moment a guy is around who she's content with, she's all smiles and turns up her attitude 300 percent. Obnoxious!
Anyway, end rant. I'm so excited that I start grad school soon, so I can have smart friends. And of course, tons of smart future businessmen at my fingertips, in case this Arms thing doesn't work out. ;)
Regarding Arms, while I still have my issues with Tinder, one of my friends is now in relationship with a guy who adores her, and lives 1000 miles away on the other side of the country. They are making it work - I will blog about when she lets me. So, you never know :)
ReplyDeleteRegarding this friend, I hate the needy girls who rate their level of fun/happy by men. Granted, men and dating do contribute majorly to my happy factor, but usually after about 10 seconds of counting all my other blessings, I snap out of it. At some point, she might push her friends away!
Also, the "date other men!" advice that I often get is REALLY HARD to take, so I'm not going to give it to you flippantly. But it sounds like if Arms is active on Tinder (and that doesn't mean anything, the Tinder app is technologically crap). And with the distance, it might help you miss him less when he's away!
DeleteI think I have found one of the rare guys on Tinder who wants a relationship. Crazy! Wish it was better over there in SF. I remember the days when I thought of it as an exclusively hook-up app and was extremely unimpressed when a guy I was dating from POF told me that he had a new Tinder match.
DeleteI'm always wondering whether Tinder says you're active once you start swiping or once you read a message. I've Googled it before and can't come up with an answer. Maybe it's at random if the app isn't technologically sound.