Irritated

I've told multiple people now that I'm dating my future husband. Things have been so good, but I think speaking these words is coming back around to bite me in the ass.

August and I had a great date earlier in the week, but since he's been unreliable and frustrating. I've been really irritated over it, because normally he's very communicative. Of course I start to overanalyze and wonder what it all means - if he's losing interest or just busy.

It started after earlier in the week, when he invited me to hang out with him and his friends Friday (which was last night). I had Friday dinner plans but told August I'd text him and see where he was after. So I had this prior invite from him, you see, and so when I did text him during Friday dinner he kind of just blew me off and made no mention of us hanging out at all later. I was trying to push the conversation toward figuring out when he'd be at the bars so I could join, but he just wasn't helpful at all. It made me really confused, because he seemed like he had really wanted me there earlier. I just let the text conversation end, because he just made me feel unwanted.

We'd had definite plans for this afternoon (Saturday) but only a general timeframe. So the morning comes and goes and he's made no mention of our plans today. I told myself I'd wait and not say anything until he did, but I caved and shot him a curt text about meeting him. Over an hour later (definitely after the timeframe we'd discussed), he finally texts me back and says he's held up with something else at his friend's house. I'm glad he texted back, but I'm also pissed and irritated. I wonder if the evening would have went by with nothing from him if I hadn't said something first.

This is the type of shit Paolo used to do. I'm going to have to have a talk with August, but it's going to be hard. Everything has been great up until now, but I feel like I'm going to come off really bitchy when I bring this up. When I'm around him, I've been sweet as sugar so it's a side he hasn't seen. Is it too much to ask to just confirm plans? Sabrina talks about this all the time, so maybe it's just drilled into my brain, but I thought confirming plans was common courtesy.

Another thing that is awkward for me with him is the meeting the friends thing. He went to undergrad in town, so he knows loads of guy friends here. They hang out all the time and he's been talking about me coming with him to all these events he and the guys have coming up. It makes me excited, but at the same time, I don't have big groups of friends I party with here. I usually hang out with friends one-on-one or similarly small groups. I don't keep guy friends around too long because they always want more, and I don't have too many large group events that go on regularly that I'd even bring him to. What's he going to do, hang out as a third wheel when a girlfriend and I have dinner? I just feel like he's going to think I'm lame and don't have any friends because I haven't talked about inviting him along to anything that's going on in my life. I feel like this is one of those deep worries I don't want to talk with him about.

Aside from that, he'd better kiss ass today and make it up to me, because even after writing this rant-seeming blog post, I'm still mad at him!

Gossip Juice

This is the post where I will tie up loose ends about various boys I've blogged about.

Hot Tanner

Tanner was gorgeous and a lot of fun for one night. When I finally texted him with a clever opening, he responded very boringly and continued boring remark after boring remark. He didn't really try to further the conversation, and after the first text convo, he never initiated contact with me again. He has been crossed off my list - he's too much effort and doesn't seem too interested in me, so I won't force it. I also found his dating profile (thought he was too hot to have one) and saw he's two years younger than me. The Tanner storyline has closed.

Pacific Guy

Pacific Guy was promising at first, but he's still a grad student - has no car and lives on another side of town. It is a lot of effort to continue dating him. He is sweet and seems like he cares. The physical chemistry is great, but it's not enough for me. He's a talker, which I like; we don't have much in common though, and I have lost interest. I don't engage his texts anymore and have let it fizzle out. He got busy with school but seems to have taken the hint that I'm not actively trying to talk with him anymore.

Hot Date

Hot Date is definitely going to need a name, because he's going to be around for a while. I shall name him August. We've gone on two dates, and I'm so excited about him. He is classy, so respectful, and treats me really well, and things are just easy with him. I love being around him and talking to him, and he didn't even try to kiss me until the end of the second date (which made me want it really really bad). The kiss was a short one but really sweet, and thank GOD, he's a great kisser. My kissing luck is turning around! I'm meeting more of his friends next weekend for a music festival. Oh, and he's cute. Maybe I really can have everything I want...

Here's one catch: August knows my most recent ex (Paolo), and August knows I know Paolo because of Facebook. August doesn't know that Paolo is my ex.

Other Recent Dates

1. Guy without a job, who cannot drive because he has a new criminal record, who is the world's most annoying texter, who lives way out in the suburbs: The first date was pretty great, but I am kicking him to the curb. It is so annoying to have to pay to go on dates with him. I don't expect a guy to buy me everything, but if I want to hang out with him I know I always have to shell out the cash. Oh, and he lives with his parents.

2. Guy who is my neighbor, with poor hygiene, who drives an awesome car: This guy has never invited me on a real date but acts like we're dating. We do have hilarious conversations but it's never much substance. He asks to hang out daily but waits until at least 10pm to invite me to do anything - and it's either a trip to a fratty bar or to watch a movie at his place (I know what that means). I also think he's the reason I got a UTI. He's not going near me again.

3. Guy who I'm supposed to go out on a first date with tomorrow: We'll call this one Shad. It's a miracle we were able to schedule a date. He will ask me with only a few hours notice on a Friday or Saturday night to go out. Um, dude, no. I'm also very interested in August so my head's really not going to be in the game on this date. I'll just give Shad a shot because we've been talking for a few weeks, but if I'm not into it in the least, I'm not going to lead him on.

Paolo Update

When we broke up, Paolo said he didn't want to date anyone and wanted to spend time on himself and with his friends. A month later, some annoying girl starts posting on his Facebook wall every weekend those check-in statuses: "Annoying Girl is with Paolo at X Restaurant." A few days ago, she posted pictures of them together on vacation in a different state. Paolo is such a liar. I know I deserve better, so I am over the moon I have met August.

August and I went out last night and were happily walking around downtown, when I see Paolo ride by on his bike. I'm almost positive Paolo saw it was me, so I hope he felt it right in the gut - even just a tiny stab of jealousy - seeing his old friend August and his awesome ex on a date. Do I sound evil right now? Probably. Oh well.


Well, I believe you're sufficiently caught up on my dating life, save for one creepy story. I'll hold that story for next time. Hint: It involves a spa.

Hot Date

In less than two hours, I have a hot date. Instead of figuring out what I'm going to wear (because it's stressing me out), I am writing a blog post. Oh well. It's the first guy in a while that I've been excited about.

A couple of patterns have been arising in first dates lately:

1. Horrible kissers. What is with guys? Maybe I have had the privilege of dating a lot of good to excellent kissers up until March of 2013, but hot damn. We've got a bunch of clueless twenty-somethings out there, and I'm hitting the worst kissers all right in a row.

2. Overeager texters. Seriously, don't these dudes know the rules? Don't reply immediately all the time, and don't freaking text me five times in a row before I answer! So annoying. I just ignore the first few ones and only address the last text. Ridiculous. I'm this close to dumping a guy I had a great first date with because of this. It makes him seem really needy and desperate.

Thankfully, my date is not an overeager texter. We'll see about the kissing skillz...